I’ve always thought it’s best to espouse the virtues of giving, not taking. That bean flicking your way to her first orgasm during foreplay is the best possible way to set the tone because, for her, everything after that is icing on the cake.
As it turns out, scientists have found some very legit reasons why bringing a woman to orgasm during sex is beneficial to men and it has absolutely nothing to do with sexual prowess/reputation in the locker room.
The New York Post reports:
Psychologists at the University of Michigan say men feel more masculine and have higher sexual esteem “when they imagined that a woman orgasmed during sexual encounters with them”.
They added: “These results suggest that women’s orgasms do function – at least in part – as a masculinity achievement for men.”
The psychologists noted several ways a gal’s sexual pleasure would affect her man:
— guys would report feeling more masculine when their partner climaxed during sex
— men would feel “most successful” making a woman orgasm when she had previously not enjoyed it with other men
— a “major failure” – where a girl orgasmed with another guy but not them – would trigger feelings of not being masculine enough
— the word masculine would be linked to success
— men who feel their masculinity is more fragile would feel most manly in situations where their female partner climaxed
— The authors, led by Sara Chadwick, concluded: “Overall, the results support that women’s orgasms functions as a masculinity achievement for men.” via NYPost
So, bringing women to orgasm boost masculinity, self-esteem, and improves overall mental health and well-being. If that’s not reason enough to focus on bringing your lady to orgasm then I truly don’t know what is.
The entire study is fascinating. How the researchers conducted it was pretty amazing. So if you’re curious about what a study like this looks like with actual participants boning for research you can CLICK HERE to head on over to the New York Post.