A relationship expert provided much-needed dating advice on a unique pickup technique that a stranger used that actually worked.
Simone Grossman is a relationship expert at Three Day Rule, a matchmaking company with allegedly “one of the largest, most selective networks in the country.” Grossman posted a video on TikTok that went viral. In the video, Grossman reveals the pickup technique that actually worked on her.
“So I actually had a stranger ask me out today in the park and I want to talk about why he did it so successfully,” Grossman says in the TikTok video. “So I’m sitting in this park by a lake waiting for my friend to come and this guy comes up to me and stays about eight feet from me the entire interaction.”
“I didn’t feel uncomfortable,” she explained, and was impressed, “I felt like he was respecting my personal space.”
“He wasn’t presumptuous in any way,” she said of the man she called “Martin.” “His opening line to me was a comment about something particular in my energy, rather than a comment on my body, or physical whatever.”
“Also his opener – or intro – gave me an out, so that if I felt like I didn’t want to talk, he wasn’t pressuring me and gave me a polite exit,” the relationship advisor added. “He also waited until my friend came before he asked for my number, which again is a really lovely move, because it further alleviated any pressure that I might have felt.”
“And I’m sure he intuitively knew that I’d feel safer telling him ‘yes’ or ‘no’ because my friend was there to like witness the whole thing,” she said. “You obviously don’t have to do this step by step when you want to ask a stranger out, but this is just like a real world example of someone who did.”
Grossman advised daters, “Don’t lay it on too thick – no one likes pressure.”
This dating approach sounds better than your typical pickup line, “You and I are like nachos with jalapeños. I’m super cheesy, you’re super hot, and we belong together.”
Shout out to a lovely Canadian man named Martin who put himself out there today 🙃