Is the fire in your bedroom dwindling? Are you looking to ignite a passionate spark and rekindle the romance? Science says they have the remedy to get your sex life ramped up and it doesn’t involve risque undergarments, leather bondage outfits, furry costumes, sex swings or silicone sex aids.
A new scientific study was recently published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy discovered that one simple thing can improve your sexual relationship. The study titled “Show or Tell? Does Verbal and/or Nonverbal Sexual Communication Matter for Sexual Satisfaction?” found that communication was key for a satisfying sex life.
Couples who communicate in bed tend to be more satisfied both sexually and in their relationships according to the research of 398 people ages 18–55+. The study surveyed the participants and asked them how often they communicated during sex, how they communicated (verbally and nonverbally), and how and how often their partner communicated.
The researchers also asked their partners how happy they were with their sex lives, their relationship, and the sexual communication within their relationship. The responses discovered that the couples who communicated more during sex were more satisfied. So just by simply talking, you could spice up your sex life. Unless you’re really bad at it and completely ruin sexy time by opening up your big fat trap.
“Our findings suggest that use of verbal or nonverbal communication, specifically, is less significant to one’s sexual satisfaction when individuals are satisfied with their sexual communication,” the researchers wrote in the paper. “In other words, trying to ascribe to a particular communication style may be less important than simply being satisfied within a relationship with a particular communication style.”
However, they did not find that one type of communication or dirty talk worked better than another and that it was a personal preference. “For example, since many couples may be uncomfortable with direct, verbal communication about sexual pleasure, therapists and counselors can recommend that, during sex, nonverbal communication could also be used to help communicate about pleasure and increase sexual satisfaction,” the paper suggests.
“Encouraging wide-reaching discussion about our cultural adherence to traditional sexual scripts or stereotypical gender roles during sex and the increasing need to deviate from these roles—could enable increased communication about sexual pleasure, desires and needs, and subsequently lead to increased sexual satisfaction,” the study explains.
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