Husband Encourages His Wife To Have Sex With Other Men Because He’s A Feminist
What a brilliant woman this is. Just pure genius right here. This woman was able to manipulate her husband to get an open marriage because she didn’t get her fill of sex when she was young. She wanted to get some strange wang and now she bangs dudes on the the reg thanks to feminism.
This intriguing confession from the husband was published in an op-ed piece for New York Magazine. The writer gives intimate details on his wife’s sexual escapades.
As I write this, my children are asleep in their room, Loretta Lynn is on the stereo, and my wife is out on a date with a man named Paulo. It’s her second date this week; her fourth this month so far. If it goes like the others, she’ll come home in the middle of the night, crawl into bed beside me, and tell me all about how she and Paulo had sex. I won’t explode with anger or seethe with resentment. I’ll tell her it’s a hot story and I’m glad she had fun. It’s hot because she’s excited, and I’m glad because I’m a feminist.
It really seems that this gentleman is confusing feminism with cuckolding.
So how did this amorous woman bring up the splendid idea of her getting her rocks off with men other than her husband? (Take notes people)
When people ask how it started, I say this: We married young. She’d had sex before me, but only with a handful of people a handful of times. She never had a boyfriend, never had a lover. I was the first man she ever had the chance to get to know intimately. By her mid-30s, having already had our children and entering her sexual prime, she felt keenly her lack of sexual experience. Happily for me, she was willing to talk about it, willing to ask if I’d be open to exploring other options. We opened a bottle of wine and started talking, and talking, and talking.
Then the idea sprouted in the husband’s head and then I think he justified it by saying it was because of his feminism beliefs.
She didn’t present it as an issue of feminism to me, but after much soul-searching about why the idea of my wife having sex with other men bothered me I came to a few conclusions: Monogamy meant I controlled her sexual expression, and, not to get all women’s-studies major about it, patriarchal oppression essentially boils down to a man’s fear that a woman with sexual agency is a woman he can’t control. We aren’t afraid of their intellect or their spirit or their ability to bear children. We are afraid that when it comes time for sex, they won’t choose us. This petty fear has led us as a culture to place judgments on the entire spectrum of female sexual expression: If a woman likes sex, she’s a whore and a slut; if she only likes sex with her husband or boyfriend, she’s boring and lame; if she doesn’t like sex at all, she’s frigid and unfeeling. Every option is a trap.
So much patriarchal oppression guilt.
He is a stay-at-home dad to two young children, and he even has guilt about receiving compliments for his sacrifice.
Whenever I tell someone I stay home with the kids, they invariably say, “Hardest work in the world.” They say this because the only way to account for a man at home with the kids is to say what he’s doing is hard work. But there’s a subtext in the compliment that makes it backhanded: We both know no one ever says it to a woman.
Soooo much guilt.
The husband claims that he uses his free pass, but “I just don’t use mine as much as my wife uses hers.”
I really believe that this gentleman misrepresented that he likes hearing “hot” stories of his wife getting railed by Paolo by claiming that it’s because of feminism. He admits that he receives titillation from fantasizing about his wife having sex with a strange man and that’s cool.
Hell, I’ll watch some cuckold porn from time to time, not that I’m imagining that my wife is getting ravaged by a strange man as I meekly sit on the sidelines. Usually I imagine that I’m the bull that is doing the wife-banging, but hey different wife-banging strokes for different folks. I just don’t think that everything needs to be labeled as a topical cause just to get more people talking about your cause and to garner approval. But I totally support this brave feminist’s view on marriage and hope more men encourage their wives to seek outside dick.