These Stories From Men Who’ve Gotten Mail Order Brides Will Make You Wonder Why You Haven’t Bought One Already
Why bother with the whole dating game when you can drop a fat wad of cash and get yourself a mail order bride instead? Sure she probably doesn’t love you and there’s a chance she never will, plus she might scam you out of all your money and then run off to Thailand…but nothing in life is a guarantee so why not just throw caution to the wind and say “Fuck it”? They don’t even necessarily cost that much. According to Redditor DanielPlainview22:
I’ve received about 50 messages about the average price being such a wide range. I think the range is so wide because it can vary so much from country to country. For example, if you are getting a bride from a neighboring country and not having to fly you will not spend nearly as much as if you were living in Florida and getting a bride from Russia. I am not an expert on this stuff. I saw the question from /u/Skruburu and noticed it had a bunch of replies, but no answer. I was curious, so I did some googling…
The Average Cost
On average, pursuing a mail order bride will cost you between $1000 to $15,000. There are many things included in this price:
1. Reputable Sites. It is best to stay away from free websites, since they are often filled with scams. One man relates the cost of a bride to that of buying a car. He claims “It all depends on what you are willing to spend.”
2. Catalogs. The next part of the price includes the catalogs used to make the selections. Each of these will usually run around $120.
3. Translation Fees. Since a large amount of these foreign brides do not speak English, a person must hire a translator for phone and other forms of correspondence. They will usually charge $6 per minute on the phone.
4. Addresses. When a man becomes serious about a few women, he will want to purchase the girl’s address to send letters and gifts. Addresses usually will cost between $10 and $15. A translator will also be needed for these letters which will normally adds another $10 to $15 a letter.
Dating After Finalizing A Bride
It is always best to meet the future bride in her home country. The family will probably want to meet the girl’s future husband. This meeting is referred to as a romance tour. These trips can cost anywhere from $3500 to $7000. If things go well and a ceremony will be performed, it is necessary to file a K1 Visa. The fee for this is $450, but $250 is usually needed to pay for translation of the documents.Statistics show that ever year, thousands of mail order brides come to this country. Over three quarters of these marriages end happily and are long lasting. There are many hidden costs associated with pairing with an international mate. Even as the internet has made the process a bit easier, the cost of mail order brides is still a bit high, but proven to be worth it in the end.
Edit: I am not an expert on mail order brides. All of this information comes from the website that I linked at the bottom of my post.
Judging from these stories, the money either seems 100% worth it or the equivalent of flushing your hard-earned cash down the toilet alongside your morning dump. It just depends on the kind of person you and your bride are and whether or not the two of you will get along. Some are horror stories, while others are successes.
My uncle did, when he was 65. His bride was 37.
For a start it was weird and he tells how she’d cook meals and stand behind him so she couldn’t be seen but could attend to anything he wanted. she would insist he finish before a massage and being tucked into bed. She seemed under the impression that a man was to be kept like a king and she was there for food and sex.
She would only eat for herself after he was asleep. He tells us he had to metaphorically beat the submissiveness out of her.
Now 14 years later they have three kids, she is fucking insane in that fun-insane kind of way, and more a part of the family than most of the extended family I grew up with. Cultures well and truly blended beautifully.
And when she visits, I get substantially fatter.
I used to coach a handicapped bowling league. It was one of the most fun things I’ve ever done. There was a blind guy (Bill) in our group who bowled, with help of a guiding rail to know where to aim the ball. He was a funny guy who always joked about his blindness (“So, I saw this really cool car this morning!” kinda humour). If he played badly he blamed me because I was the one who set up the rail and made sure it pointed at the pins!
Anyway he admitted that he’d had zero luck dating girls and married a Filipino girl he found in a paid marital service. He was the first person I knew who’d done this. He visited her 3 times in The Philippines before they got married. Then he married her in Manila and brought her back to Australia.
Honestly, she was the loveliest girl. She was quiet when they came out together but he said she was very loving and cared for him a lot. I’d never seen him happier. They have two kids and are still together (this was 15 years ago).
I’m sure it sometimes (maybe often) works out badly, but Bill and his wife are a great couple. It made me appreciate how hard it can be for handicapped people to have relationships or find love and happiness.
For an acquaintance of mine, the biggest surprise was finding out that when his “wife” was sending money “back home to her family”, it was to her husband (not “ex”) and kids in the Philippines.
I work in the oil field and a common theme is divorce. A coworker was divorced by his wife of 20 yrs and she took half of everything. He later decided to get a mail order bride from Brazil (he was working offshore there at the time). She was smoking hot but 6 yrs later developed terminal cancer. Before she died he ordered ANOTHER bride from Thailand and she took over the regular house chores AND took care of the Brazilian.
He told me this story when I was offshore talking about my girlfriend and confirmed it with photos and by other coworkers.
Welcome to the oil field.
I used to teach ESOL and TEFL and taught many women who had married through agencies. They were all supporting people back home. The husbands were, by and large, nice enough guys who didn’t have the most amazing social skills. A few ladies were past 45 and looking for a new adventure in life. They spoke about sex the same way they spoke about housework or any task to be completed. They were also doing it to have kids in safer, healthier places. None of them where ‘in love’ with the men but they all loved them. The men all adored them, just worshipped the very ground they walked on. On average it seemed to work out as well as more traditional arranged marriage as we in the West think of as commonly happening in places like India.
I lived in Ukraine as a teen and I used to get flyers handed to me on the street stating that I could live in America guaranteed if I joined a dating site.
I also worked in the US embassy there for a summer. We had an elderly man (probably in his 90s) come to us to request a visa for his 20 year old fiance. Turns out it was his 4th 20 year old bride and he just kept getting them because he was lonely and felt like he was helping them.
Not me, but a guy I knew in the Navy.
He was a little socially awkward, so he got a mail order bride from the Philippines. When she showed up, she was gorgeous. Great body, and a fantastic set of tits.
They got married as soon as he was able to route the paperwork. He showed up the next day somewhat distressed, and made the mistake of telling everyone in the division that she was a he.
We had to sit through 2 hours of command training so we’d stop making fun of him.
I worked with a guy that married a mail order bride from Thailand. Guy was one of the creepiest, most disgusting person I’ve met since he rarely took a shower or brushed his teeth.
I saw his then wife a couple of times, she was extremely attractive and I wondered how she managed to endure that guy…
Anyways, after several years of being married, she got the Swiss citizenship and divorced him. He had bought tons of houses and property in Thailand but were registered in her name since foreigners can’t legally own property in Thailand (as far as I know), she basically did a long term scam and got the best of him in the end.
Now he lives in single bedroom apartment while his ex-wife is back in Thailand.
In short, it surprises me how fake it all seems. There was no emotion in anything she would do. I could always tell she was uncomfortable. It seemed like she was just doing a job. I somewhat pitied her in a way. She would cook, clean, offer sex, whatever. Pretty much what you want from your wife. But the passion, emotion, warmth, everything that makes a marriage actually work was lacking. Looking back I should have expected as much. I was naive to think it would be any different. I thought it would fill a void but it didn’t. I regret that decision but I’ve moved on now.
You could liken it to a gold digger but it was much worse. At least with a gold digger it isn’t painfully obvious, and you might actually convince yourself she likes some aspect of you. In a way she does – she likes your wealth. A “mail order” bride is just being paid outright.
A guy I went to college with did it. He was a total neckbeard. But a nice guy. No social skills. Sort of an Asbergers case. She was from Ukraine or Belarus or something. Fairly hot. Anyway she walked all over him. As soon as she could she brought over one family member after another so they were all living in his house on his dime and he was too much a pussy to say no. Cousins, uncles, aunts, grandparents. Like a gypsy camp. Eventually she brought over her boyfriend and last I heard he was sleeping on a cot in his own garage.
I didn’t marry a mail order bride but I use to work a job that required me to go into peoples houses and one was obviously a mail ordered bride. She did not speak English and just sat in a chair staring at the wall looking very depressed. They had a ridiculous amount of humidifiers in the home so that it could be more like where she came from. He hung a huge picture of the two on the wedding day above his bed and while he was smiling she wasn’t even looking at the camera and just looked so depressed.
My dad did a few years after my parents divorced.
I like to make people uncomfortable by telling them he picked her from a catalogue. Which he pretty much did, he sat me down when I was about seven, put the book on my lap and asked me which one I liked. They were like Facebook pages. I picked a lady from Beijing who had a tiger on her lap in her photo, but he went with a woman from the Philippines.
Anyways, she’s amazing. The first time she landed in the UK, my dad and I picked her up from the airport in London (he’d been out to the Philippines a bunch of times to visit her) and it was snowing, the first time she had seen snow! She started working in a local factory pretty soon after she arrived and the women she worked with taught her a bunch of swear words. A couple of weeks later at Christmas my grandmother was horrified that my dad’s new wife casually swore like an old sailor. We had to tell her what the words meant and she was so embarrassed.
…They’ve been happily married for about fifteen years now and have two boys. All my family love her. They bought a home out in the Philippines a few years a go and usually go out every other summer to visit her family.
Seems like maybe you shouldn’t order your bride from the mail. Just a thought.