Being a beverage cart girl on a golf course means you see a lot. Regulars become familiar faces. You learn who tips well, who orders the same drink every time, and occasionally, who’s living a double life.
Most of the time, that’s not your problem. But every once in a while, someone makes it your problem.
What would you do in this situation?
To Tell Or Not To Tell?
In a viral TikTok with more than 351,000 views, beverage cart girl Kasey (@kaseycarts) describes a regular at her golf course who has been coming in sometimes with her boyfriend and sometimes with her husband on the same course.
“Very ballsy in my opinion to come to the same golf course with both men,” Kasey says.
She’s clocked the situation for a while and stayed out of it. The boyfriend, she notes, seems to know about the husband. The husband, as far as she can tell, does not know about the boyfriend. Not her circus, not her monkeys—until the woman ticked her off.
Kasey pulled up to the group with her cart like she normally would. “Hey, how are you guys doing?” Standard stuff.
The woman looked at her and said, without missing a beat, “We don’t need anything.”
That was enough for Kasey.
“I’ll tell you what you need is marriage counseling,” she says in the TikTok.
Now she’s sitting on what she describes as a golden opportunity. The next time this woman comes in with her husband, Kasey wants to know: should she be petty?
“Don’t piss me off,” she adds.
In the caption, Kasey sums it up simply: “The things I put up with as a cart girlie.”
The Numbers On Infidelity
Kasey’s regular might be bold, but she’s far from alone. According to South Denver Therapy, which cites data from the General Social Survey, about 20% of married men and 13% of married women admit to having had inappropriate relations with someone other than their spouse while married.
And that number has been shifting. Women’s infidelity rates have increased by 40% over the last 20 years. Notably, women’s cheating tends to peak in their 50s and 60s, a pattern researchers have dubbed the “gray affair” phenomenon.
It may also feel like infidelity is everywhere right now, and there’s a reason for that. The American Survey Center points out that TikTok alone has more than 350 million posts on the topic of cheating. These posts are “tailor-made for virality” because of the high emotional stakes and built-in drama.
But despite how it feels scrolling through your feed, the data suggests actual infidelity rates have stayed relatively stable over the past few decades. About a third of Americans report having cheated on a partner or spouse at some point.
As for who people cheat with, a survey of more than 5,700 people analyzed by Dr. Kathy Nickerson found that coworkers are the most common affair partner for both men (42%) and women (35.8%), followed by friends.
The research also found that women are more likely than men to have affairs that are both physical and emotional and less likely to feel regret during them.
Commenters React
“Let the husband know please. No one deserves to be cheated on,” a top comment read.
“Call the husband by the BFs name,” a person said.
“Ask the husband ‘how come you never golf with your wife and son when they come’?” another wrote.
“Tell the husband he’s much better than the guy she brought here last week,” a commenter added.
@kaseycarts The things I put up with as a cart girlie 🤦🏽♀️ #storytime #cheater #bevcart #bevcartgirl
BroBible reached out to Kasey (@kaseycarts) for comment via TikTok direct message and comment.