Women have dealt with strange, intrusive comments about their bodies for generations. That doesn’t make it any easier when it happens at work, especially in jobs that are known as “women’s professions,” from servers to nurses to golf course beverage cart attendants, or “cart girls.”
One Nevada beverage cart attendant says one regular golfer took it a step further with a “joke” that turned out to be a hidden dig at her body.
Golf Cart Girl Shares The Comment That Stuck With Her
TikTok creator Cass (@cassholland) recorded her story while sitting in her cart, explaining why so many golfers on her course make her uncomfortable. Her video got over 1.1 million views.
She starts by calling out the pattern she sees on the job.
“So a lot of golfers I’ve come across have no filter and zero common sense,” she says. “They feel the need to comment on any and everything about your appearance, especially weight.”
Whenever her weight fluctuates, the regulars seem to feel entitled to a running commentary.
“When I’m heavier, they let me know that I’ve gained weight. When I lose a few pounds, they let me know as well,” she explains. “It’s usually very forward… like, ‘Hey, you’ve put on weight,’ or, ‘Wow, you’ve slimmed down, you look good.’”
Then she gets to the one comment that stuck with her for years.
The ‘Flat Tire’ ‘Joke’ She Didn’t Understand At First
Cass recalls one golfer she thought she had an inside joke with when she was at what she calls her heaviest. One day, she pulls up to his group, and he hits her with a strange line.
“One random day, I pull up to his golfer, and he let me know that I had a flat tire,” she says.
She does what anyone would do: she checks the cart.
“I look at all of them. I’m like, ‘None of them are flat. So which one is it?’” she asks. “And he’s like, ‘The front left.’”
Cass pushes back, still confused. “No, it’s not, like it’s not even flat.” But from then on, every time he saw her, he repeated it.
“Every time I saw him after that, he’d be like, ‘Front left tire’s looking a little flat today,’” she says. “And then, like, we would both say it, and I just thought it was like this funny inside joke that we had.”
She genuinely believed they were sharing a weird, random bit. She laughed along because she thought it was about the cart.
Only later did she realize the punchline.
“And then only recently, I figured out what he really meant by it,” she says. “The whole time we were laughing about it, I thought it was some funny inside joke thing, and really, I was the joke.”
In other words, commenters pointed out, “flat tire” was his way of saying she was “weighing down” the front left side of the cart.
Cass says she hasn’t seen him in a while, but if he ever rolls back through, she wants to be ready.
“When I do see him, I want to be prepared of what I’m gonna say to him after figuring out what he meant,” she says. “Next time you’re gonna say something about the cart girl’s body… probably shut up instead.”
How To Respond To Comments About Your Body
Cass isn’t alone here. People in service jobs, especially women, deal with “jokes” about their bodies that are meant to land as playful but hit like a slap.
There’s no perfect way to handle it, but experts on boundaries and body image suggest a few routes that still keep you safe on the job.
One option is to call it out directly. A simple, clear line like “Don’t comment on my body” can shut things down fast. You don’t have to soften it or explain why. Your body is not up for discussion, and naming that out loud reminds the other person of a basic line they crossed.
If confrontation feels tough, you can still set a boundary without turning it into a fight. Some people find it easier to frame it around their own comfort: “Comments about my body are a trigger for me, so I’d rather we don’t go there,” or, “I don’t like talking about my appearance at work.”
Tone helps, too. A flat, matter-of-fact “What a weird thing to say out loud” can be enough to make the room go quiet. So can a short, dry “Thanks,” followed by a hard subject change. Asking about their score, their day, or their next drink order can move the interaction back to where it should have been in the first place.
And sometimes, not engaging at all is the safest option. A blank look, a quick turn back to your work, or simply driving away to the next group sends a message: you’re not entertaining this. That won’t fix every dynamic, especially with pushy customers, but it can make it clear that their “joke” did not land.
However someone chooses to respond, there are things they should remember. You’re never “too sensitive” for not wanting strangers to comment on your body. At a golf course or anywhere else, you’re there to do your job, not absorb cheap one-liners from bored men with a scorecard.
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Commenters Are Furious On Her Behalf
In the comments under Cass’s video, plenty of viewers pointed out how cruel the “flat tire” bit was.
“Hi I’m mad for you,” another commenter said.
Some people shared go-to lines they use to push back on remarks like this. “Always hit them with the ‘what a weird thing to say out loud’ paired up with a [smiling emoji] face and it gets them every time,” one user suggested.
Another former cart girl offered the kind of response that instantly flips the power dynamic. “I said, ‘Thank you, that’s all the tips I need from you for the day. The clubhouse will be serving you,’” she wrote.
BroBible has reached out to Cass via email for additional comment.