Catch and release: The holiday dating cycle

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Remember Quin, the girl who snapped at a guy for breaking up with her over text message while the whole Internet called her crazy? She’s now doing a regular advice column here at Guyism because you love her so. Today she tackles dating during the holidays.

It’s that time of the year. It’s colder, an endless number of +1able holiday parties are looming, and relatives are likely shaming you for being single.

Already the exes are circling. Just yesterday someone I have not dated since January decided to resurface with some absurdly over-stylized text about how my life must be crazy of late due to a blog post I wrote over a month ago. Way to be timely.

And then I realized: I started dating this guy exactly one year ago today. I remember because we met at a post-Election Day party. We had a pretty great relationship through the holidays. In fact, he’s one of the only people I ever actually committed to exclusively. It was a great feeling to have someone through Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year’s, and all the black-tie events during gala season.

But then something rather unusual happened. Following January 1st, this guy basically fell off the face of the earth. He was gone as soon as he came, in a tempestuous firestorm of accelerated relationship milestones—meeting the fam, planning European vacations, asking me to be his date for summertime weddings. He actually just stopped all communication without warning.

And so the cycle begins again. It’s a great gig you guys have going — start a relationship in early November. It’s too early to get really expensive Christmas presents for each other, and you’re out by Valentine’s Day anyway so it’s basically no skin off your nose, a solid snuggle buddy, and great arm candy for your grandmother.

So, rather than get upset about the absolutely offensive self-righteousness this guy is exuding by popping out of nowhere, I’ll be having dinner with him next week. I anticipate lots of friendly catching up. And top-shelf booze.