A Tampa, Fla., woman went on a first date and tried to order a salmon. Her date insisted on splitting a cheese burger on top of ordering his own entrée. The red flags just don’t seem to stop until the end of their one-and-only date.
In a video with over 622,000 views, TikToker Alexandra Jaye Weinstein (@alexandrajaye5) lounges on the beach as she recounts the date from hell.
She says she tried to order the salmon, but her date quickly shut her down.
Did He Make Her Eat Half A Cheeseburger?
He insisted that he wanted her to have only half of a cheeseburger and demanded that his half come with no cheese. Her date also ordered a steak for himself.
“I’m sitting there and I go, ‘OK, let me just ask the waiter,'” she recounts. Weinstein asked the waiter if the chef could put cheese on one side of the burger. The chef declined their bizarre request, so she ordered the cheese on the side. She posted a picture of two slices of cheese on a plate in a follow-up video.
“I take the big piece of cheese, I fold it, and put it on my one half,” she says.
However, the date got weirder after the dessert menu came.
“He says, ‘Let’s not get dessert. It’s gonna make us fat,'” Weinstein continues. At the end of the date, she says he noticed her shoes and asks if “they’re from Amazon.”
“I said, ‘No, but my dress is,'” she says. “The shoes were actually $700, but thank you.”
Then, he asked her to drive him home and invited her inside after the awkward date.
“I said no,” she says at the end of the clip. “I never saw him again.”
Should Dates Choose What You Order?
Weinstein’s strange first date is just one instance of women questioning why their dates obsess over what they choose off of the menu. On the r/dating_advice subreddit, women shared what happened when dates started going on a “fat-shaming” rant.
“We met over dessert and he went off on a nutritional rant about how sugar is basically poison…all while I was eating a piece of cake. He then went on about how the concept of body positivity is trash,” one woman recounted.
Others said a date insisting on what you order is a red flag for controlling behavior down the line.
“It’s very controlling and a very bad sign. You will spend the rest of the relationship being dominated by that guy who ‘knows’ better than you,” a commenter on r/AskReddit said.
Another remarked, “I don’t like it. I know what I want and that’s what I’ll be eating. If he wanted to pick for me he should’ve just ordered food to go then came to my house.”
Should She Have Left Earlier?
In the comments of the viral video, viewers told Weinstein she should have left the date as soon as he insisted she could only have half a cheeseburger.
“As soon as he mentioned splitting a meal after I stated what I wanted I would’ve left cuz no,” a viewer said.
Another wrote, “You entertained that situation waaaaay too much and for too long.”
“Can we normalize walking out of the restaurant,” a third asked.
Others told her she should have ordered the salmon against his wishes.
A commenter wrote, “The way I would have just ordered the salmon then never spoke to the guy again ever.”
“I would order the salmon without breaking eye contact,” a second joked.
In a follow-up video, Weinstein explains why she chose to stay until the end of the date.
“At a certain point, I said to myself, ‘Wow, I talk publicly about my life. This is going to be a great f—— story,'” she says. The caption reads, “Sometimes you gotta just do it for the plot at a certain point.”
@alexandrajaye5 I think I should start sharing all my dating stories again