If you’re looking to level up your dating game, one men’s relationship coach says there’s three things some men have that instantly attract women. She says men that have all three of the “holy trinity of male hotness” have the best luck.
In a video with over 47,000 views, TikToker Jenna Nicole (@jennnaw) draws a triangle diagram with three circles—one at each point.
“On one corner, you have emotional intelligence,” she says. “On the other, you have money. And on the other side, you have muscles. These are all things women want.”
She points out that each woman has a different combination she might prefer out of the three categories.
“That’s great, because most men have two of these things—not necessarily all three,” she continues. “You’re a top-tier man if you have a balance of all three.”
What Do Women Actually Care About?
While Jenna Nicole neatly groups traits women might look for into the three “male hotness” categories, other women may have more specific attributes they look for in a partner. On the r/dating_advice subreddit, women weigh in on one man’s question about what attracts women.
“Also good manners, hygiene, intelligence, tbh there are many things I could think of,” one woman suggested. “The most important things are how he treats you (for example respect, communication), himself (hygiene, confidence) and the people around him (manners, kindness).”
Another said she looks for the more subtle ways a man interacts with others in social settings.
She wrote, “A man who doesn’t always need to be the loudest. A man who doesn’t always need to be the smartest. A man who doesn’t need to be the strongest. A man who doesn’t always need to be the center of attention.”
A third agreed, adding, “How a man treats all living things is #1 on my list!! Not forced kindness. Genuine kindness. To people, animals and the planet.”
Do Guys Agree With Her ‘Holy Trinity Of Male Hotness’?
While the relationship coach is confident in her formula for male dating success, some guys said they have all three and still struggle.
“I have all three and still single,” a commenter lamented. Another replied, “Same, it’s tough out there.”
“I’ve made it, the emotional intelligence is the one I keep working on,” a third man wrote.
Others suggested other qualities should be on the triangle.
“The trinity is actually not-arrogant confidence, humor, and a sense of edge,” one wrote.
A second suggested, “Money = Resources, not necessarily an open bank account. Also if you have a future plan (purpose), that counts.”
“Like a guy for who he is, not what he has. Money should be irrelevant. The other two are character based though so they make sense,” another suggested.
BroBible reached out to Jenna Nicole via TikTok and Instagram direct message for further comment. We will update the story when she replies.