Minnesota Server Shares What His ‘Least Favorite Table To Serve Is.’ Are You Guilty Of This ‘Awkward’ Habit?

One St. Paul server is sharing his thoughts on all the couples whose dynamic includes a two-factor authentication process. In a TikTok video with over 87,000 views, Vincent (@vinn_y) gives a play-by-play of the table he hates to serve.

Surprisingly, it’s neither the post-church 17-top nor the pre-prom table of 12, with everyone too afraid to eat lest they get sauce on their fancy dress-up clothes. It’s the quiet, unassuming couple deciding if they want to share the spinach dip or the fish fingers.

An Unlikely Advocate For Gender Parity

Vincent starts by asking a rhetorical question: “You know what my least favorite table to serve is?”

Then he answers himself: “The table where the guy speaks for the lady.” His reasoning, however, is not based on anything other than social mechanics.

“And not for any other reason than it’s f—– awkward as hell,” he states.

He explains his position in terms of the logistics of getting an order. It’s made worse, though, because Vincent says he’s always the “last one to catch the vibe.” So by the time he catches up, the table’s gone weird.

First, it’s just drink orders, and a Diet Coke is an easy order. Next, the table is ready to order appetizers, but this is where things get legit tricky.

Vincent games out how it goes, saying, “He’s like, ‘She’ll have the House Salad,’ and I’m like, ‘Oh, right.'” He says as his eyes start to flit around. Because now he needs to know if she wants protein on her salad. But who should he ask? Who should he be making eye contact with?

Who Is Ordering Versus Who Is Eating

In this example, the man tells him that his date doesn’t want any protein on her salad.

“All right,” says Vincent. And that’s when he gets weird. “I get awkward. And then of course, they always order the entree that has the most follow-up questions.”

Now, the man indicates that his date “will have the cheeseburger.” Trying to keep things cool, Vincent then refers to her in the third person: “Does she like lettuce, tomato, onion?” he asks.

Finally, it is time to ask about burger temp, and he just cracks: “Does the Mrs. like … uh … pink?”

He announces that he hates the entire interaction.

In an email to BroBible, Vincent says that by the time things get to this point, “I just really emphasize the word ‘we.’ I’ll also look at both people just in case she does wanna chime in.”

Everyone’s Got Lesser Favorites

Vincent’s post is kind of asking for it, and the internet responds with it in incredibly specific ways.

Kayleigh (@_kayleighgallagher) presents a situation that she argues is more uncomfortable: “It’s worse when it’s the girl ordering for the guy! 10x more awkward,” she says.

Others present explanatory scenarios. “I have the WORST social anxiety so my husband usually orders for me.. ooops,” says another.

Then there’s the person who looks really deeply into it as a social phenomenon. “Like tbh i dont care wtv ig sometimes it could be romantic. But once i have to ask all these follow up questions & we’re talking as if she’s lit not right in front of me it feels dehumanizing in a way,” says Waifuashxo (@waifuashxo).

To those dealing with anxiety, Vincent says, “A lot of people responded to my video and brought up the idea that they (the woman) get anxious ordering/can’t project their voice so it’s easier when the guy does it – but there’s a difference between that and the type of table I am referring too. The energy is way different lol but there’s just no way to explain it tbh.”

Everyone Can Order For Themselves?

It wasn’t until the 1840s that women really began dining outside of the home. Even then, they “would never have dreamed of ordering for themselves,” reports Salon. “Well-bred women always had a male companion who ordered their dinner.”

However, as times changed, and as women began to exercise greater agency over their lives (and lunches), what was once seen as a gentlemanly act was viewed with suspicion. “A woman said it was her boyfriend’s habit to order for her on occasion, and she wondered if it demonstrated ‘controlling’ behavior,” noted Salon.

Chivalry or control, the lines aren’t so simple. While it might be considered a “red flag” if your date tries to control your meal, it might actually be kindness when sharing an experience is at the root of it. There’s also the issue of expedience, shyness, or decision fatigue.

The bottom line: If it feels weird, or if your partner isn’t ordering the dessert you want, it might be time to speak up. Otherwise, let the server be awkward and enjoy your meal your way.

 

BroBible reached out to Vincent via email and TikTok direct message.