It’s 2014 and the only appropriate answer to the question “Are you a feminist?” is “Yes,” unless of course you think women are unequal to men, in which case the answer would be “No I’m a bigot! Hooray for me!” It’s not a matter of “Well men are stronger than women!” or anything like that; it’s a matter of “Are women intellectually equal to men and do they deserve the same payment for doing the same job that a man is doing and etc.?” Because they are and they do.
However, I can see how people can be “bleh” towards the idea of feminism. I mean, I’m pretty “bleh” towards it myself. Do I think that I’m intellectually equal to men in general and deserve the same rights/respect that they do? Obviously. But do I feel oppressed by some omnipotent patriarchy 24/7 and blame them for anytime a man gets hired for a job that I applied to? No. Do I hate men and refuse to shave my legs because that beauty standard is actually male patriarchy subtly suppressing me? No. I shave my legs because I don’t like looking like a goddamn gorilla, kthx. It’s this small percentage yet highly vocal subcategory of feminists that puts out this man-hating bullshit that turns people off, myself included. I know they’re not the majority, but when the first image that comes to people’s minds when someone says “Feminist” is a topless woman standing on a street corner screaming her tits off about how all men are women-supressing assholes, why would you want to be associated with that? Quiet the crazies down and you’ll have way more support.
It looks like Kaley Cuoco feels the same way I do, at least to an extent, because when Redbook magazine asked her during an interview if she was a feminist, she replied “Is it bad if I say no?”
It’s not really something I think about. Things are different now, and I know a lot of the work that paved the way for women happened before I was around… I was never that feminist girl demanding equality, but maybe that’s because I’ve never really faced inequality…
I cook for Ryan five nights a week: It makes me feel like a housewife; I love that. I know it sounds old-fashioned, but I like the idea of women taking care of their men. I’m so in control of my work that I like coming home and serving him. My mom was like that, so I think it kind of rubbed off.
I don’t see a problem with any of this, honestly. If you like cooking then fucking cook, and if you like being a housewife then go grab a mop and start cleaning house. Not everything you like to do is necessarily a product of “patriarchical influences.” Good for you Kaley, go do whatever the fuck you want and tell anyone who says that you’re only saying all of that because men are holding you back to go suck a fat one.