When a 6’2 woman from Austin, Texas, was having a peaceful business meeting, she was taken aback when a man approached her. Then, he started negging her.
It isn’t uncommon for short men to be insecure about their height. In the past, some men have lied about their height, while others have crashed out over things like Tinder’s height filter.
However, in a TikTok that has garnered 114,500 views, user Becky Perry (@beckydperry) shared the story of how one man’s insecurity was a step too far.
What Happened At This Coffee Shop?
Perry began by explaining how she went to coffee with a friend whom she also wanted to discuss business matters with. After her friend takes a work call, the TikToker goes to the bathroom. On the way back, a man sitting at another table is staring at her. Undeterred, Perry returns to her friend. Then, the man comes over and asks if they used to work together.
“Now this is not the best intro, gentlemen. Because, in all honesty, if you can’t remember people that you work with…” she said. “However, I am never gonna punish a man for having the courage to come up and speak to a woman, because if we’re gonna talk s— about the dating apps, if you have the bravery to approach a woman in the wild, you have my attention until you lose it, and my respect, until you lose it.”
He then goes on to say he’s sure they worked together at Flow Sports. He claimed that he worked with five women who were “carbon copies” of her.
“Now, if this was your attempt to hit on me, no woman wants to hear that they are carbon copies of her,” Perry added. “If it wasn’t your attempt to hit on me and you’re just being a red pill a——, f— right on off, OK?”
She says she tried to remain graceful and patient as she was in a business meeting, adding that there’s “nobody like me,” so he’s obviously mistaken.
The Situation Deteriorates
The man then “digs this hole deeper” by responding with: “Oh no no no no because those girls are like six foot eight. How tall are you? Like, assuming you’re the same height, 6’8.”
In response, she says she’s 6’2. The man then says, “No, you couldn’t be 6’2.”
“All the tall girls out there can validate this experience: when a man says that like that, it’s either he says it directly or he says it in that way to infer, ‘You couldn’t be that height, cause I’m that height and you’re taller than me?’ No sir, you’re not that height. You’re probably six feet on a good day with s—– posture,” she added.
“At this point, I’m like, this is going on, and he’s not going anywhere, and he’s clearly not being a gentleman if he’s trying to hit on me,” Perry continued. “And if he is trying to hit on me, it’s in a negging fashion and I’m not the one. Because frankly, if it’s in the push/pull way you think it’s gonna be […] and you want me to try and get your validation and be like, ‘No I’m not this, I’m not that, I don’t look like them I’m not that tall. Wrong b—-. Wrong b—–!”
What Happens Next?
After this, she tries to send him away, saying she’s in the middle of a conversation.
The man then goes, “Oh. Oh no no no. I just saw how tall you were and I thought I’d come over here and ask you for some uppies.”
As she recounts this point, Perry looks at the camera, dumbfounded. “Some m———- uppies,” she said.
“I would like to propose, especially for the tall women, any man that’s shorter than you—not the short kings, because you are a king, you have a crown if you’re secure with your height and you’re shorter. But the men who are shorter that aren’t kings, f—— plebeian height m———–, the type of men that are insecure with a woman’s height that have the audacity to behave this way, we’re gonna call you guys Lord f—— from now on. There’s your m———— uppies.”
BroBible reached out to Perry via contact form.
What Did Commenters Say?
Commenters were impressed by Perry’s attitude.
“My first impression of you and I LOVE YOU,” one wrote.
“First impression of you and an instant follow,” a second echoed.
“I want to be your friend for sure,” a third remarked. “I’d love to be sitting at that table.”
While a fourth added, “I’m 6’ and not the slim type of tall, I am constantly asked how tall I am and it’s crazy how people will argue with you about your own height! You handled that great.”
What Is Negging?
In her video, it’s worth noting that Perry accused the man of trying to “neg” her. In the dating world, “negging” essentially refers to delivering a backhanded compliment as a means of flirting with someone. The general idea is that, by momentarily lowering a person’s self-esteem, they’re more than likely to accept your advances.
According to Happiful, negging comes from the verb “neg,” which, in essence, means “negative feedback.” Refinery29 reports that the term was popularized by “pickup artists,” who occupy part of the manosphere. Examples of popular pickup artists include Andrew Tate.
In a 2004 New York Times article, pickup artist Neil Strauss describes negging as follows: “Neither a compliment nor an insult, a neg holds two purposes: to momentarily lower a woman’s self-esteem and to suggest an intriguing disinterest. (‘Nice nails. Are they real? No? Oh, they look nice anyway.'”)
While this technique is a pretty old one, it seems like women have wisened up a little more to this blatant misogyny. And honestly, good for them.