It would be safe to assume that a man with an IQ of 168 has a pretty sweet life. I’d assume the same until I read the story of Leon Feingold.
Leon Feingold was an outstanding baseball player. He’s excelled at competitive eating, passed the bar exam, obtained his real estate license and succeeded in just about everything he’s ever attempted. It’s due in large part to his 168 IQ. Feingold is a genius.
A member of Mensa, and now the head of his own real-estate brokerage, the 41-year-old from Long Island native doesn’t really know what it means to fail. This doesn’t mean, however, that Feingold life is perfect. Far from it.
Here are five reasons, according to Leon Feingold’s interview with New York Magazine, that being a genius is sometimes a curse and not a real blessing.
It’s Possible To Be Both A Genius And An Idiot
Feingold explains that while he’s gifted in some areas, he’s sorely lacking in others. “The last time I was tested, it was 168. I’ve been a member of Mensa since college. I’ve always been a bit socially retarded but intellectually very accomplished. Both my parents have above-average IQs. I skipped first grade. I’ve always been very good at everything I try and I can ace any test you put in front of me. But I still have no common sense.”
Everyday Life Is Pretty Fucking Boring
If you think life sucks, imagine if you already knew everything. The day to day could be a soul crushing experience for a person like Feingold, so he’s got to find numerous things to pass the time. “Having a high IQ doesn’t mean you are going to be successful. It just means your brain works faster. It recognizes patterns. It can reach conclusions quickly. I’m laughing at jokes as soon as the punch line comes out; I multitask and boredom is my nemesis. I’m always doing five things at once.
My mom hates it when we go out for dinner. I have two phones, one for work and a personal one, and I am always on both. I’m still keeping up with the conversation and I don’t understand why she’s so upset. Also, I’m polyamorous and I think that has a lot to do with my low threshold for boredom. I think responsible non-monogamy has an amazing benefit, because one person can’t meet all your needs, or if that person exists, I haven’t met her.”
He Gets So Bored He Needs To Bang As Many People As Possible
Alright, that doesn’t suck so bad, but along with the sex he’s got to keep up multiple relationships. Feingold is polyamorous but it’s more for the mental stimulation than the physical.
So being poly allows you to build the composite woman? You can have a range of people in your life who fulfill a host of intellectual and social needs?
Yes, that’s why I was enjoying seeing all these people — because I have all these needs. Not just three or four. I have about 30 things that are important to me, and if any one of them wasn’t met, I would get antsy.
Always Being Right Will Piss People Off
Feingold was asked if he realizes that he’s always in control of an argument. He said he did and that it took a long time to figure out how to handle the eventual backlash. “It creates conflict when people are arguing from a place of emotion. I can’t rationalize that. But I have learned that sometimes I have to acknowledge someone’s feelings even though they are stupid in my mind.
So if somebody says “I feel very frustrated right now,” instead of saying, “Well, that’s stupid because … ,” I’ve learned to say (and this makes no sense to me), you know, “I acknowledge that you are frustrated and that must be really hard for you right now.” That sentence has zero logical value, but it helps talk someone down off the mental ledge because they feel like their emotions are validated.”
It Makes A Person Complacent To Be That Damn Good At Everything
Feingold explains honestly: As a negative, it’s made me complacent. Why would I work hard at something if I know I can do it? If I were only good at one thing, then I would know what to focus on. But I’m good at too many things. I’m not trying to be a narcissist: It’s just true.
[H/T: New York Mag]