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Hey, Every Dude, Whatever You Do, NEVER Do Something Like This When A Girl Rejects You

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Look, I’ll be the first dude to admit that rejection sucks. Having been rejected many, many times by many, many women, I know it’s not an easy thing to take. It sucks when someone you like doesn’t like you.

But just because it’s difficult for you doesn’t mean you get to make it difficult for other people, especially the person doing said rejection. Because while you won’t get any (maybe deserved) Brownie Points for being a nice guy who says thanks and moves on, you will comfortably get to rest in your own knowledge that you aren’t a psychopath.

You don’t want to be a psychopath, do you? And you don’t want to be a terrible individual, who when, rejected by one woman, throws a complete and utter hissy fit.

Because if there’s one thing you should be in life, it’s good. Here is an example of how not to be good.

It comes from BuzzFeed writer Grace Spelman, who long ago Facebook friended a guy who hosted a Harry Potter podcast. (I know). Recently (seven years later), he deserved it was time for him to get his from a random stranger. Here’s the story, from Spelman’s tweets.

Reminder: this is an example of what not to do, both as a Bro, and a larger, more general member of society.

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Nothing inherently wrong here. It is okay to say hello to people on the internet. That’s what it’s here for. But here’s where you can be helpful. If they aren’t interested in saying ‘hello’ back, don’t start pestering them.

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Then definitely don’t switch to another medium. I’m here to tell you it will not work. It won’t. You aren’t going to somehow woo them via Facebook where your fire tweets failed.

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Soooooooooo. Quiz real quick here, Bros. If you are this guy, do you: 1. Stop, or 2. Try even fucking harder to pester and annoy a girl into loving you?

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Is it time to quadruple down? No. It is not. But you only answered that because you are not Ben Schoen.

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Course, after this story went viral today of how terrible a man this man is, he puffed his chest out and said “Y’alls I was just joshing.”

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Yea okay, no you weren’t.

So men, the moral of this story is, if you harass a woman after you ask her out, she probably is not going to fall in love you with.

It’s their right to say ‘No’ and have that be that. And we’d all be a lot better off if us guys recognized that. Because clearly a lot don’t.

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Good work, men. Now, while I’m sure the majority of you are great (you are!), just remember, always try to be a little bit better.