Everyone strives to go on a hot date. But what about a cold date?
In a viral video, TikToker Lauren (@laurenslildiaries) broke down the concept and explained how, for her, this precursor to first date behavior worked in her favor.
“I just went on a cold date last night, and I highly recommend,” she began.
She then defined “cold dates” as dating without building up a texting rapport with the person first. For all intents and purposes, it’s like diving straight into the deep end.
“And before I get you guys coming for me in the comments [saying], ‘Why did you do this without talking?’ Babe, I live in Austin, Texas,” Lauren said, adding that the dating pool “sucks.”
How Did The Date Go?
However, as for her recent date, Lauren said it went “perfectly.” While he technically broke the rule by texting her that he was excited to see her, along with instructions to wear a nice dress, the TikToker remarked that the situation was “already hot.”
They then pull into Justine’s Brassiere, which Lauren describes as the “sexiest restaurant in all of Austin.”
“We had the most romantic dinner, a candlelit dinner,” she added. “And then the date was going so well. I was like, ‘We should go for dessert afterwards.’ We ended the night at Zed’s.”
“It’s been less than 24 hours and I miss this man.”
BroBible reached out to Lauren for comment via TikTok direct message.
How Did Commenters React?
In the comments, viewers were sKeptical about whether this was actually a novel concept.
“Isn’t that just normal dating?” one asked. “When I lived in DC I went on ‘cold’ first dates straight from Hinge like 3 times a week every summer I was single there.”
“That’s how it’s supposed to be,” a second added. “There is no way I’m texting someone I don’t know for 3 weeks before going on a date.”
A third quipped that “15 years ago, this was just called dating.” Meanwhile, a fourth remarked, “Bar so low a regular date is mind blowing.”
And a fifth insisted, “No, this is what you’re supposed to do! Good job!”
How Much Should You Text Before A First Date?
Before a first date, multiple relationship experts told Elite Daily that keeping texting minimal is the best way to go.
Family therapist Amanda Chlipala advised daters to text for “two to three days, enough to establish safety but not enough time to know important things about them via text instead of in person.”
“You want to meet in person as quickly as possible because some people can have great texting chemistry but then aren’t attracted to the person,” she added.
Similarly, dating coach Damona Hoffman says that “you want to keep the texting light, playful and short-lived before the first date.” The reason for this, she says, is that texting can lead to a false sense of intimacy that can lead to you oversharing.
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So, there’s a lesson to be learned here. Provided you don’t say the wrong thing on the first date, keeping the conversation minimal beforehand can add to the mystery. In fact, it can actually work in your favor.