Girl Loses 165 Lbs After Family Dies From Obesity, Shares Terrifying Photo Of What Happens After Huge Weight Loss
24-year-old Mary Maxwell lost her dad to cancer before she was born, then at two-years-old she lost her mother to a sudden heart attack caused by morbid obesity. The punches didn’t stop coming though, as her aunt also passed away at the age of 26, again due to obesity-related causes. You’d think that after having lost two family members to a completely preventable disease would’ve inspired Mary to become a star track athlete, however that couldn’t be further from the truth.
You see, Mary says that food became her “best friend and also my worst enemy.” Some people use food for fuel whereas others use it to cope with feelings that they’re not ready to face head-on, and by the time Mary was 19 she was reportedly 315 pounds:
She says she was ‘heavily bullied’ as a teen. ‘Adults would gossip about me, ‘forget’ to invite me to work gatherings and I even noticed it in clothing stores,’ she remembers.
‘I would walk in and magically all of the sales associates would disappear.’
But, after meeting her boyfriend Josh Harper, she realised she wanted to build a future with him, and, to do that, she had to get help.(via)
Luckily for Mary, “help” came in the form of a gastric bypass just days prior to her 21st birthday. Four years later she’s down 165 pounds and now only weighs 150, less than half of what she started out at before surgery.
‘It has in no way been an easy journey for me,’ she explains. ‘Over the first 8 months after my surgery, I had multiple complications and had 2 major stomach surgeries.’
… ‘I still struggle with my looks (even at my thinnest), I still struggle with relationships, I still struggle with my mindset and my confidence. Losing weight is not only a physical transformation but a mental one in which I struggle with on a daily basis.’(via)
However, unlike many weight loss success stories on Instagram, Mary elected to show the truth about what happens to your body after dramatic weight loss. It’s not pretty nor is it fun to look at, but at the same time it takes some serious balls to show people what reality is and how addictions in any form (food, drugs, etc.) can come at a price:
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This is never an easy topic to discuss but it is a VERY necessary one. After my life was shared on CNN/HLN I had to face my extra skin face on now that it is nationally broadcasted. A little over a year ago I took a video to show you all the truth about losing a significant amount of weight. It wasn't easy to do then and it isn't any easier now. I have a large amount of excess skin on my stomach, arms, legs, neck, and breasts. Not only does the extra skin make me look bigger than I am, it is a significant problem when it comes to exercising, heat, or wearing clothing. Many people ask me daily if I plan to have it removed. As I stated in my interview, maybe one day I will. I hope to have it done sooner than later, however money doesn't grow on trees. So for now I am working hard to tone and I am also working hard at my self peace and inner confidence with it. I remind myself daily that my skin is a badge of honor. It is a reminder of all of my struggles in life, a reminder of who I once was. It is beautiful, just like me because it is a part of me. Until the day it is removed I will hold onto it as a proud achievement. – If you yourself are struggling with confidence due to extra skin, it is okay. Take it day by day and remember how truly beautiful you are. This journey isn't easy and if it were, it would not be as rewarding. As I say to myself on a daily basis, I would much rather have the skin than have the fat. Do not look at it as a blemish or as something to hide. YOU and your body, every curve, every stretch mark, every spot on your body is a beautiful work of art! Wear your skin as a badge of honor, for you are a remarkable person who deserves to live happily in the skin you are in! Do not let the world weigh you down by telling you how you should look. You know how I think you should look? Confident! Confident that you are an original, confident in the fact that YOU made a healthy choice to lose weight and gain your life back! Confidence is sexy, loving yourself is beautiful, and being happy in your skin is positive. YOU have real beauty! Do not let the world, OR yourself be told otherwise! @tlc #extraskin #SKINTIGHT #saggyskin #looseskin #skin
Despite being unable to afford the surgery required to remove her excess skin (you can donate to her GoFundMe HERE if you like), Mary is still continuing to lose weight, and judging from her progress photos girl is killing it:
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One of my favorite parts of my weight loss is how my eyes are now able to be as bright and wide as they were meant to be!! 👀❤️ #TransformationTuesday #Wls #Rny #health #fitness – To keep up with my transformation and see my amazing adventures make sure to follow me on: ✨Facebook.com/maxwel1ma 🎥YouTube-Maxwel1ma 📺Periscope-Maxwel1ma
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Today has been a "fat" day for me! My mind plays tricks on me too often and I more times than not think of myself as being the girl who weighed over 315lbs. – I will ALWAYS struggle with my self image and my self esteem. Living in a country where a majority of woman are size 0 can be frustrating but I am determined to love myself through all of the negative self talk. – 3 years ago I began a journey to become healthy, 3 years ago a new Mary was created and sometimes I need to step back and see who the old Mary was. Whenever I need that slap in the face I look through my old photos to remind myself of the journey. – Do not EVER forget that health is a never ending journey which will always have its ups and downs. I will continue to work day to day on my self acceptance and try and rid those "fat" thoughts for good! #SelfLove
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This is a VERY long post! IF you are a true follower, please read! It's been a while since I've posted something this heartfelt… How many of us try to pretend to be someone we aren't? How many times do we try to transform into who society wants us to be? My whole life I have tried to be who everyone else wanted me to be. The honest truth, I've never felt loved, I have never truly felt whole….I have been hurt by friends, by family, by people who have truly cared about me but I did not choose to believe it…and sometimes STILL don't. I've always been bullied, told that I am never and will never be good enough. I lost weight trying to impress people, people who didn't even matter. I lost weight hoping to show myself that I would be worthy of love and be accepted by my peers. One major thing that I've learned in life, losing weight doesn't not make people like you more, I promise! If anything, I've found out that people who I thought were on my side thought when I lost weight I became conceded, cocky and full of myself because I FINALLY felt happy with my appearance and finally was ok with having my photo taken. People who I thought were on my side became jealous and backstabbing after I lost weight. Now that I've lost weight and unfortunately gained some weight back, my eyes have opened to who really cares about me and who never did to begin with. – Weight is weight, your looks will always change. The way others view you will always change and it's none of our business how people feel about us. I view this before picture in true jealousy of who I use to be. I wasn't trying to impress people, I wasn't losing weight in order to be liked, I wasn't trying to fake an image. I was me, Mary! HOWEVER, I was depressed and mixed up! I may have been myself "looks wise" (if that makes sense) but I still struggled with demons and pain. Losing weight WILL NOT take those demons away and will not make you a different person. I still struggle with my looks (even at my thinnest), I still struggle with my mindset and my confidence. Losing weight is not only a physical transformation but a mental one in which I struggle with on a daily basis. (Continued in the comment section)