It has happened to all us dudes. You are out and about at a bar, macking on some lady (do people still say macking? God, I’m so old), hoping to get her back to your place for some booty (do we say booty, too?), when she tells you “No.” That she doesn’t do one night stands. That they are silly. That they never go anywhere, that you’ll never call back, etc.
While that’s all true, the next time this happens, drop a little quantitative analysis on her ass and tell her she’s wrong. That’s there’s a 27% chance that the two of you might wind up in a relationship. Ask her if she wants to waste an opportunity like that?
Yea, man, science saved your dick once again. That’s because Match.com’s annual Singles in America study was just released, and an analysis by Nautilus found that “27 percent of … 2014 respondents reported having had a one-night stand turn into a long-term, committed partnership.”
Hey, that’s pretty good. And why not? Once you get the awkward, icky sex out of the way, you are at ease. The hard part’s over. You done got it in. Why not try and get to know the person? (Or be like the other 73 percent who never call again).
But, basically, this new study found that casual sex = good for America. In fact, fucking first might be the way to go.
Perhaps because you learn a lot about a person between the sheets. You might even kick-start a real relationship: Any stimulation of the genitals promotes dopamine activity, which can potentially push you over the threshold into falling in love. At orgasm, oxytocin and vasopressin—neurochemicals linked with feelings of attachment—spike. With just one night of casual sex, risky as it is, you may win life’s greatest prize: a devoted mating partner.
Hells yea. The research also found that another form of fucking before dating, the friends with benefits scenario, is just as likely to help a romantic relationship flourish.
In 2013, 58 percent of men and 50 percent of women in our Singles in America study reported that they’d had a friends with benefits relationship, including one in three people in their 70s. And 28 percent of our 2014 participants had had a friends with benefits relationship turn into a long-term partnership.
So go forth, dudes, armed now with a new arsenal of knowledge that casual sex is better for everyone. It may just get you laid.
And help you fall in love, but pfft, whatever. That’s for losers.