Bros, time to take some notes. Yes, again. As I have said many times in the past when writing about things like this, we, as men, need all the help we can get. It’s a proven scientific fact* that men will never, ever be able to fully understand the female mind. (*May or may not be true.)
So when given the golden opportunity to actually have real live women actually tell us what they like and don’t like we really need to pay attention.
Today’s topic, shared with us by ladies over on Reddit, is “what do guys do that they think is ‘being manly’ but in reality is the furthest thing from it?”
Ready to both learn and possibly have your feelings hurt a little bit all at the same time? Okay, here’s what the women had to say…
Being that angry guy. Adults need to have more control of their emotions than toddlers do. ~ PerilousAll
Not being able to do basic adult things like cooking and cleaning. A lot of guys seem to think domestic tasks are feminine and should be left to women, but not being able to take care of yourself makes you look incompetent, not manly. ~ manondessources
Guys who have to be “alpha” in every situation.
Dated a guy like that. Any sort of social interaction, he had to go around to each guy and had a “system” to stare them down “into submission.”
Seriously. BBQ with friends. Walks up to the guy on grill and starts demeaning his cooking. Then attempts to be taller and just stares at him. Then walks over to me triumphantly, “That guy knows his place in the hierarchy now. You’re with the most alpha guy at this party.”
That relationship didn’t last long. “Any man who must say I am king is no true king.” ~ fuqmook
Starting random fights, or being overly macho as if to start a fight.
It doesn’t make you a man to prove you can beat anyone up, it makes you a childish douchebag who thinks he can solve all of his problems with his fists. ~ Pm_Me_Gifs_For_Sauce
Generally, policing other men’s “manliness”. Thinking of a time a guy tried the “that’s a girly drink!” shame on a friend. Friend pointed out that as a MAN, he’d drink whatever he liked and dude could piss off.
Idiot guy was laughed at so hard by our group he left the bar. ~ isisfrog
Driving dangerously fast. Sorry dude, near death experiences don’t really turn me on. ~ mister_thomas_engine
Guys who treat their girl like shit in front of people to show that they are “the man” in the relationship. It always makes me think that in private, they must be very insecure about their masculinity.
I find gentle and affectionate men to be the manliest ones. ~ babaorom
Bragging about wealth. It’s very lame when you hear a dude bragging about being “upper middle class.” Especially when they’re just the typical broke college student pretending for attention. ~ syddaboo
Dated a guy who bragged about never reading. He thought it (*reading) was “nerdy”. No you’re just being immature. Same guy also did crazy stupid stunts, which could seriously endanger his life (like climb to the forth floor balcony on the outside of the apartment-complex, just because). ~ MoominSings
I have an ex that would make me walk a few paces behind him because “he was the man, and was leading me”. Also if I would speak up about something in public he would shoot me dagger eyes to quiet me.
Fuck that guy. ~ hopie324
Avoiding “girly” food and drinks. If eating a crepe threatens your manliness, your masculinity is too fragile! ~ saxonprotestor
Any guy who shits on mental health or going to therapy.
My friend’s husband once said, “Why is ‘Bob’ depressed all the time? I think he’s over reacting. Therapy? You don’t need therapy. Come to me. I’ll give you a shot of whiskey and kick you in the balls. You’ll feel better.”
I sat there and shook my head. ~ meowzapalooza7
Boasting about how much alcohol they can drink and how often.
When they are clearly injured, pretending that they’re not hurt at all and refusing medical attention. ~ apple_kicks
Never admitting a mistake. ~ drn77
My wife says: “bumper sticker on your truck that says ‘PANTY DROPPER.’ (She apparently saw this the other day.) ~ antonholden
*goes outside to remove sticker from car*
Check out even more of of the ladies’ manly pet peeves over at Reddit.