Nobody likes being stood up. But by seemingly sending her date a “no-show fee” on Venmo, one woman is changing the narrative.
There are plenty of reasons why you might want to break things off with someone. Perhaps they broke a first-date rule or said the wrong thing. But does that really warrant a future no-show?
In a great example of someone knowing their worth, one woman Venmoed a man $100 after he failed to show up on a date. The moment was documented by her sister, Gab Hearn (@gabhearn). The video, which has garnered 89,000 views, shows Hearn’s sister on camera hiding her face with her hands, saying something, and then hiding her face again before the camera pans to her phone. On her phone is Venmo, with the screen showing a pending $100 transaction to someone named Nicholas. Accompanying this request was reference text that said “No show fee.”
The video was accompanied by on-screen text that said, “My sister charging a Venmo no-show fee to a man who stood her up is the new standard.”
Moreover, in the video description, she added, “Ladies… this is the future.”
BroBible reached out to Hearn via TikTok direct message.
What Did Commenters Say?
For the most part, commenters were all for it.
“I think $250 sounds more fair,” one wrote.
“As she should,” a second added.
“I did this, he paid,” a third shared. “10/10 recommend.”
While a fourth commented, “This is savage and I’m here for it!”
Multiple other commenters even floated the idea of making a dating “deposit” a thing.
However, a small number of commenters also questioned the validity of the video.
“Odd that you just happened to be there to film it,” a further commenter said.
In response to this, a TikTok user argued, “Film a charge from 6 days prior? Doesn’t seem strange to me. Prob was when they got together next.”
Should You Venmo A Date If Things Don’t Work Out?
Over on the r/dating subreddit, a user shared a similar story. They Venmoed a girl after she ghosted them.
“IK it’s super petty, but I Venmo’d her for the cost of her drink like 4 days after she ghosted,” they explained. “I just felt really frustrated because I spent time/money getting to know her (she spent time but no money) just for her to pretend I don’t exist. If I don’t exist to her now, then she should give me back my money since we were never on a date.”
In an update, they confirmed that they actually got their money back.
However, other Redditors were less keen on the idea than TikTokers were.
“If you aren’t willing to just let go of the money you spend on dates regardless of the outcome, than make it abundantly clear to potential partners from the get go, that you won’t be paying,” one suggested. “She owes you nothing, as there is no rule or social contract that guarantees you anything simply because you paid on a date.”